He’s Just Not That Into You

How do I know if he’s as into this as I am?

If you have to ask, the harsh truth is that he’s probably not.

It’s natural for people to feel insecure when dating, let alone dating online when the other party isn’t around so you can assess their body language, but people are born with natural instincts to detect when things have taken a turn for the worse.

One of the many great things about dating through online personals is that you can gain a lot of information. If you call someone and they didn’t return your call, it’s easy to assume that they simply didn’t get your message. When you’re dating online, you get notices when people have opened your message, when they’ve read it, when they’ve logged online but haven’t bothered to take a peak at what you’ve said… It’s very easy to get the hint from someone if you’re paying attention to the warning signs like that.

You should never simply give up if you think you are being ignored. If the sings are there and you think you might be getting the cold shoulder, there’s no harm in making sure. Maybe he simply hasn’t had enough time to return your messages (although take this excuse with a grain of salt. If that’s the truth, it would have taken only seconds to message you and let you know). Simply send him a quick message saying that you noticed he was online, and you’re curious as to why he has stopped communication.

There’s no shame in someone losing interest in you. It could be that someone else they had been talking to had gotten more serious than expected, that he’s decided to stop online dating, or that he’s realized you two aren’t a compatible match.

If he isn’t that into you anymore, then move on! You deserve better and I’m sure at this point you’ve realized that there’s plenty of other fish in the online sea. If he doesn’t show the interest you want, then you should find someone willing to give it to you.